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After I moved to Jogja, I feel that I become more mature. Everyday I should take care for my own daily responsibility. At first week, I really wanted to go back to my hometown. But after I met many friends and had fun together with them, I feel glad that I moved to Jogja. Until now, I never feel homesick.
ReplyDeleteI suggest, when you feel homesick, you can share with your friends. Never being alone when you are homesick!
Since I moved here, I appreciate the value of family and how the small moments can be very precious when I’m not with my family. When my mom visited me last Saturday, mom and me talked like we used to. I miss that little moment when I talked to my mom about what happened. I miss the time when I’ve family dinner with my family I also miss the moments I spend with my cats. Being here makes me feel that even little moments can be something with right persons
ReplyDeleteI used to living apart with my family,but when I moved to Jogja I feel something different.I feel little bit difficult to adaptation with new situation in this city,not only about the boarding house but also about the college life,but I know that sooner or later i'll enjoy everything here,I just need more time to do it.About 2 weeks ago I went to Panti Rapih to get infusion and injection because of my sick.It was my first time to go to Hospital without my mother or my father,in that time I really want to go home,it's such a hardest time because I got sick and I couldn't meet my family.
ReplyDelete@ Lidya: be sure not to go too far "the other way" and lose touch with home! Keep them informed about how you're getting on.
ReplyDelete@ Ghina: Life can be a long and wonderful series of "moments" - the people can change - the places can change - but there's no reason for the "moments" to stop!
ReplyDelete@ Amel: "I used to living apart with my family"... do you mean living apart FROM your family? If so, why was that? Where were you and why were you living independently of your family? How did it feel? How did you cope with it?
ReplyDelete@ Adrian: well, hopefully, every 2 or 3 days I call my parents and have chit-chat with my family. I think I'm already used to live by myself at my hometown since my parents are usually busy with their own activities.
ReplyDeleteThere’re some differences between living in here and back in my home town in Jakarta. But I guess I can handle it.
ReplyDeleteThose differences remind me to a lesson my piano teacher gave; Syncopate.
syncopate is a variety of rhythms which are in some way unexpected in that they deviate from the strict succession of regularly spaced strong and weak but also powerful beats in a meter (pulse) or we can say it's disturbance or interruption of the regular flow of rhythm; a placement of rhythmic stresses or accents where they wouldn't normally occur.(I stole it from wiki :p)
he said, you can play a song much more enjoyable with syncopate, if only you know the rule, your fingers limber and strong enough to control the tempo, and you are dare to try with no doubt.
Actually, I can't play the syncopation well but I got the idea of it.
and then, I find the syncopation of my life. Thanks to my piano teacher, pak anto for teaching me the syncopation. Living far away from parents, away from malls and my fav coffee shops, my friends, my sweet room, my piano, my cozy zone seem sucks. But this is the syncopate. I think I've understand the rule, my fingers limber and strong enough and I’ve fight good enough to set myself in a "dare with no doubt" condition, but the problem is will the syncopation suit the song?
i guess that's the game; to sync a song with syncopate
(actually, I've ever post it in my blog, isn't it ok?)
I want to share my little experience while in Jogja. Anyway, the changes I had here is not always good but also not always bad. The bad one is since I moved to Jogja, I lost my weight about 3kgs. This is because I rarely eat, I dont eat on time, too much activities, and lack of sleep. At first, I'm feeling fine with this condition, but then my friend told me with joke how skinny I am. Since then I take it seriously and started to look in the mirror and realize that I'm not this skinny while in Jakarta. So, I started eating a lot. I remind myself to eat like three times a day and to have plenty of sleep. I hope I'll get back my 3kgs or more in a month.
ReplyDeleteI do love to study in Universitas Gadjah Mada because Jogja is my hometown. Actually I've just lived here for six years and right now I live with my parents, so I have no complaints about difficulties to adapt with the new situation here. The biggest problem that I have lately is that I can't manage my time well because mostly I spend my time sleeping. I don't know whether I have a problem with my health or not, but mostly I feel tired everytime I get home from school. If I feel tired, I will go to bed early and forget about those assignments. Eventhough I take a vitamin with an expensive price every morning, I still feel tired.
ReplyDeleteWell, I want to share my experience when I was on high school. I went to Saint Joseph Senior High School in Malang, East Java. At the first year of highschool, I felt it was very hard for me to adapt with the situation and the school material. The first was the language, because javanese people are used to talking with java language to all people. The second, I have to live far away from my parents. Next, the curriculum and the materials are extremely different with what I had got in Papua. Because, The teachers used to not come to the class and honestly, the teachers were uncompetitive, compared with teachers in Western of Indonesia. In the end of first semester, my teacher told me that if I had no development , I should retake the first grade next year, because my score was very bad. So, in the second semester, I made a great effort, and studied harder. But finally, I could pass the test despite with not good score and went to the next grade.
ReplyDeletewell, at the first time here in jogja, i thought that i have to adapt quickly, because i wanted to enjoy myself here. i dont have any family live in jogja. But people here made me very comfort living in jogja. and they look like my new family for me. they all are very kind to me. and the living cost here is cheaper compare to my home town, jakarta. the traffic here is not terrible like in jakarta. but since in jogja, i gained my weight about 3 kilos. because since in jogja, i have a new hobby, eating! but at all, im very happy to be at jogja. And I am enjoying my time.
ReplyDeleteI want to share my experience about living in Jogjakarta. This is my first time living outside my house. Jogja is a nice city compared to my hometown (in term of food, because I love eating) the other is same, so that I'm not feel any difficulty to adapt with it moreover I often visit Jogja. For the first week, I'm still good for living in here, far from parents I'm still ok, second week still the same, but then when the third week come, I am totally homesick. Maybe because this is my first time living far from my parent. I have to wipe it away from my life, I think homesick is not good. Now I'm not homesick anymore because yesterday I went home and throw away my homesickness.
ReplyDeleteFrom the first time I stepped my foot in this town I know this is the best place to stay, and to enjoy every moment I have as I live in this place. It's the first time I live on my own, yet I find it interesting.
ReplyDeleteI could go anywhere I want with my friends, have a good quality time without my sister bothering me and take care of everything on my own.
Homesick was never part of my problem, the only problem I've had is figuring out what to do during holiday.
Fortunately I have good friends who will kindly accompany me exploring jogja, mostly to search for places to eat, chat, and having fun. We've gone to the beach, discovering hidden restaurants with affordable price which serves fancy foods, and superb cafes where we could chat all day long without wasting too much money. Jogjakarta is superbly fun and exciting.
It was around 5 years, since I have to leave my parents to fulfill my dream, to make them proud. Honestly, it was not an easy decision to make. I was a young 14-years-old boy then, and I had no choice but to sign the scholarship - since I was already accepted. I was scared at first. I have no idea, who I will meet there in that foreign country. I had no friend, and both the other recipients of the scholarship from my hometown were my seniors, whom I had little idea about them at that time. I even told my mom, that it seemed like she tried to kick me out of the house. However, I realised that it was all in me. I needed to mature and every decision I made will affect who I want to become.
ReplyDeleteThen, the two years at secondary school was over. I had friends - more than just my two seniors. I know them all - those strangers when I was still a boy became my close acquaintance. I had friends from Malaysia, Vietnam, Philippines, Korea, China, Thailand, and India. I wondered would that happen when I insist not to go. Honestly, I did not find any difficulties in adapting to the surrounding. I was well in totally opposite feeling - I was so happy.
However I also realised that it was just a start. I have to learn more and I was at the right place and right hands. I stayed at boarding school during my secondary school years. I had a caring hall tutor and few of the assistants. They showed me that there is no finish line in learning. Then I reflected back, actually they are my role models till now.
I continued my study to the local Junior College. Then I felt my learning curve became steeper. I learned a lot about life, leadership and politics. I joined the students' council and rugby. I had a lot of lessons from those two activities, especially from the two teachers in charge whom I respected a lot. It was all fun and enriching experiences for me.
Here, now at Yogyakarta I am not alone anymore. The experiences from the island far away, had been a much helping hands for me to adapt to the current environment. They are my guidance to find as many friends here. It feels like Yogyakarta is not really a strange place for me. I love the people, culture and especially food! The experience of studying here would be a valuable one for me and I hope I can succeed here.
I ever be a student in another university before UGM. Being in my previous university was never be my expectation, but as we know that sometimes God says different and everything does not always mean to be like what we expect. At that time, I always blame myself and I felt like the most stupid person in this world, but then I know that it happened because of my own mistakes. I didn't really prepare myself for the state university selection test last year. What I lived before I became the UGM student has been a precious lesson in my life. I realize if achieving something takes sacrifice, effort, and also prayer. And now I know what people mean with "experience is the best teacher".
ReplyDeleteMy life here is very different compared to my life in my hometown. I used to depend on my family so much. I didn't have to do any housework at my house, but here, I have to do everything by myself. I also have to go to campus using public transportation because my dad didn't let me to drive here. This is so different compared to when I was in my hometown, where I was completely in my comfort zone.
ReplyDeleteThe 1st week here was quite difficult for me, but then I realized that this is the time for me to be more mature & independent. I realized that I live the 'real life' now. Then, I met new friends and joined some activities at campus. As the time goes by, I adapt to the situation here. I'm enjoying my life in Jogja now, with new friends to hang out and new city to explore. I don't really feel homesick since my family always calls me everyday. And one thing that I like the most here is the freedom. I'm free to do whatever and go wherever I like. I didn't have such a freedom when I lived with my family, but of course I know that I have to be responsible in enjoying this freedom
i have one message to you, about love. dont fall in love too deep with someone, because it would be very painful when you know that he/she doesnt love you or leaves behind you.
ReplyDeleteThe only reason I dare to go to Jogjakarta by myself is I want to chase my dream at this university, University of Gadjah Mada. I left almost all that I love, my family, my pet, my lovely friends, and my room. The hardest part was when I need to leave them. The First week was hard for me to adapt because I barely speak Javanese. But nowadays I'm getting used to with people around me.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I feel perfectly lonely in this place, there is nobody to rely on. Alone in my room and I feel pathetic until I figure it out I need to be independent. Away from home was never be good as I expected before.
There were time in high school that i wished to live alone, apart from my parents, not being controlled by anyone. At first i thought it was fun, but in fact it is not fun at all.
ReplyDeleteNo one wakes me up in the morning to pray the fadjar prayer (subuh). No one makes up my bed and prepares breakfast for me . No one makes the dishes and washings for me anymore, etc. Those following things are usually being done by my beloved mama ( i miss u mom :'( ). And now I have to do that things by myself.
At first i faced some difficulties to do all those stuffs. And well it is still very hard for me to do all those stuffs. You can see it if you enter my room, it is super messy ! Underwears here and there, books here and there, etc. Even my friends say (with a low pitch voice) : dude, you are super joroooook !
Because of that facts, i can't still claim myself as an independent person. I just need more time to evolve from the mama kid to a full grown up, handsome, independent guy ! Imma show you all ;)
@adrian : When I was in my senior high school I live with my brother and sister in boarding house because my parents work in other city,but they always come to visit us every 2 week.At the first time I feel sad and confuse, I have a big responsibility because I have to take care of my brother and sister and I have to be a good example for them,but I realized that It's my obligation as a older sister.
ReplyDeleteI don't feel any differences between my sole life in Jogja and my life with my family. I used to be apart with my parents since I was little. So, it's not a big deal to live alone in Jogja. Well, basically, living alone is not fun at all. I have to do all housework stuffs alone. Before I move to Jogja, I rarely do those housework stuffs because the maids usually have them done. My eating habit becomes worse than before. I have had not eat for almost two days because no body prepares food for me anymore. Lucky, now I have Liren who stays in the same boarding house with me. My eating habit is a little bit under control since she moved here.
ReplyDelete@ Amel: "I have a big responsibility because I have to take care of my brother and sister...". Who is looking after them now?
ReplyDeleteI feel very different between my college life and school life, in school life I still often found my friend with childish behavior so sometime they want to responsible for what they have done. Different with school life, In the college life there is a environment that more responsible. In college life all realize that we need study, so we study without any compulsion. Because we know what we get in college life will affect our future.
ReplyDeleteDifferent? yes, being independent? maybe not, homesick? always, change? probably not. College life is very different compared to school life. Since I must live my life alone in my dorm, homesick is my annual behavior. But I accept those conditions with all my might and trying to "break my limit".
ReplyDeleteAbout the lecture in college life, I think the needs of it is very important now than the school's studying materials. Because I started to believe that those kind of knowledge is a key to the better future.
"Teenagers are the most misunderstood people on earth. We are treated like children but expected to act like adults."
ReplyDeleteHave you ever heard this quote? Do you ever treated like that? Well in my case, when I still live with my parents, they always do that to me. For example, when my young sister cried and I was near her, it will consider that I was the one who make her cried and they would begin their speech about how older sister supposed to act. But when we meet with other families or colleagues, they start to treated me as a child.
Since in 2007, I lived in Jogja without my parents, I hope, I can act like adults as my parents expected and its okay if my parents treated me like a child when I come to visit them (it is only a while). I know they do that just to show their affection.
I was deeply touched by Wira’s way to begin his story. It brings an idea to me. Try to remember, what was the last word your parents gave when they left you alone, here in Jogja? I bet it must be the words of blessings, sermon and hopes. Now, they must have been asleep and dreaming about you, missing you (it is 2:30 in the morning when I write this). They believe that you are doing well in here, and they also believe that you are the one who deserves to be proud of. Now, the first semester will be end soon and I asked myself whether I’ll be home and make them believes come true.
ReplyDeleteYesterday I had a chat with my dad; I said that my A1 level of France went bad. And he said that he want me to re-take the class and give him guarantee to succeed in joining the double-degree program. Immediately I lost my gut to tell him about my math bad score. And I just said instead “I’m working on it, Pa” and he replied “and I’m working on the budget, Kak”. Well, this time I’m really working on it, Pa :’)
Irinaaa you do make me cried a river by reading your last post.
ReplyDeleteReminds me about my parents, too. How they put up their big hope on us. And the irony that sometimes in here i lost my track of time, waste most of it by having some fun instead of studying, which is the reason why i'm here. To finish my study with a good GPA.
But then, realizing the final exam is only 4 days ahead of us. I try my best to work on it, i found the spirit to study until late night. And in daytime, i learn and discuss it with friends. Yeah, friends is all you have when you're away from home.
So, class. Let's prove it to our parents that their dream and hope could turns to a reality. And we are their reality!
@Irina and Gizty, your comments got my attention and I feel the same. I know my parents also expect the best from me so that they trusted me to enter the University of Gadjah Mada which the place was far away from them. Sometimes I still can’t manage my time well, there’s so much time I wasted and not productive at all. But hopefully at the end of this semester we can fix our bad habits, get good GPA, and show to our parents that we’re great and can make them proud.
ReplyDeleteI have realized an important point when my friends and I got busy in preparing for final exam. Never have I prepared like this time; woke up earlier then studied until I wanted to run away from all of these matters. However, I must hold it since I want to make my family proud of me. I want to present them my good GPA and show them that I can be a dependable woman. If I start to think that my parents give their hard effort to let me study at Gadjah Mada University, it feels like I’m motivated to study and make a great result in my study.
ReplyDeleteHere we go. Today we will have a final exam for English Writing Skill and I hope IUP 2011 Class B can break a leg! Like Adrian said, English Writing Skill is not as hard as Mathematics. The fact is both Mathematics and English Writing Skill have same credits this semester so we can cover other lectures by maximizing our score in English Writing Skill. We are a student of Gadjah Mada University (one of the best universities in Indonesia) and don't let the chance go away to get a great mark at the best university in Indonesia. We just need to fight for a week and then we can enjoy our holiday.
ReplyDelete@Irina, Gizti and Rania. Well, I think we are on the same boat. Pulling our best shot to have a good GPA. In my opinion, Good GPA is the only way to make my parents happy and can provide a return for money that my parents have spent in my education. But somehow, I try my best not only to make my parents delighted but also to prove that I’m responsible for what I have chosen. I choose to enter Faculty of Economics and Business by myself and here I am fighting for what I choose.
I think it will be my last post. In 2 and an half hour I’ll have the EWS final exam and ended this class. I’d like to thank you, Adrian for being such an inspiring lecture. I learned lots of things from you. Not only the main material, but also general knowledge. Another thing that I learned from you is how to appreciate time. You never reduce our studying hour and always on time. Once you said “you pay, and you deserve the value you pay” (well, it was not the exact word you said, but this is how I got it). and I think you are the only lecture that know every single student in our class. It is sad to end the English writing skill class. Nevertheless, life goes on
ReplyDeleteI agree with Irina. This class should've learnt many things from you. Actually the reason why I came to this section is because I got confused. Last night I went to check this blog and read some articles, I noticed that there were just view comments and now this blog is being filled with so many comments. I don't know whether you will read those comments and appreciate each of them or not because the EWS exam will be held today.
ReplyDeleteWell I still forgot to say that maybe it is too late to post a comment and you may not consider it as my participation to this blog. But if it hasn't been late, I may regret not posting any comment because actually you're still going to read it.
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