Don’t give up you’re love if it’s worth to fight. If it’s not just forget it. Because relationship need effort from two people not just a person fighting for love but the other do nothing.
One day, there was a girl standing at bus stop. After 5 minutes waiting, the first bus arrived. The condition of the bus was very bad. It was very dirty and smelled bad. But the price was cheap. The girl did not want to go home with that bus so she thought she'll wait for another bus. The second bus arrived not longer after that. The condition of the bus almost as bad as the first bus so the girl decided to wait another bus. After waiting for 10 minutes, the third bus passed. This bus was in good condition but the price was higher than another two buses. This girl wanted to go home with this bus, but she decided to wait again because of the price. The fourth bus arrived 30 minutes after that. This bus was very bad, even the worst of all. But it was almost night and the girl had to arrived at home before night. So she decided to go home with this bus. What can we conclude from this story? Do not be too picky. When there was a chance, do not reject it simply just because he or she does not suit your taste. He or she may be the best for you. The girl is never satisfied with the bus. She kept waiting and waiting but in the end she got the worst bus. You do not want to be like that, do you?
It extremely breaks your heart, when person you know become person you knew. When closest person become stranger . When you can walk right past someone, as if she was never a huge part of your life. You used to be able to talk for hours on the phone, and now you cant even look each other in the eye. It completely breaks your heart to know good things change.
I think the most saddest part about love life is when everyday you seen him or her.. You talk to him or her everytime.. You have the feeling to having him or her.. And you think about him or her everynight.. But you must face the truth at the end, because you know that you'll never be with him or her..
I 'm totally agree with Ghina. From my own experience, It's really hard to keep LDR. I try to trust, support, and always keep in touch with him but I think there is a particular key in order to keep the relationship working. Unfortunately,I don't know that it is until now.
Sometimes I don't like my boyfriend's behaviour that always pick a nose in front of me, singing too loud, or he even prefers to take care of his pet than play with me.. But, that's love. Love teaches me how to see imperfect person perfectly :)
The first time I had a boyfriend was when I was in the first year of junior high school, and we had a long-distace relationship. Suddenly, my friend told me that he was dating 3 girls at that time, then we broke up via sms. Everytime I open his Facebook account, all I know is that he's disgusting. He still uses slang Indonesian words such as saia which means saya, muup which means maaf, siappva which means siapa, etc. He uses it even up until now. I always want to ask him, "Hello, what year is it today?".
LDR or long distance relationship isn't as bad as I thought before cause it's a modern era and there are many ways to communicate with my boyfriend.It will help us to be more mature,to be more understand each other,trust each other and we learn alot from LDR.I try to think about LDR in positive side because it will make LDR run easier if we always think positively.
It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone you really love.
I just want to share something here, don't ever force yourself to love someone if you have no feeling to the person who loves you. Because, it's really hurt when you find out the person you love doesn't have the same feeling with you, and he/she doesn't let you know about that from the very beginning. It's better to tell the truth about your feeling before he/she falls in love too deep and expects too high. The deeper he/she falls, the higher he/she expects, the more pain he/she feels. Like one of Shakespeare's quote (if I'm not mistaken), "expectation is the root of all heartache".
@Amel : But there are a lot temptations if you do long distance relationship. But, I believe if a couple have commitment so there is no problem even if the couple do Long distance relationship
@ Bagaskara: "there are a lot temptations if you do long distance relationship"
Of course, those "temptations" are a legitimate part of the decision making process that a pre-marriage 'relationship' is.
I'm not saying people should cheat on each other because they are far away! These "temptations" mean there is attraction. And if there is attraction, then perhaps there is potential for a relationship.
If the attraction and compatibility that sustain a relationship grow weak and another (potential) relationship seems more likely to lead to a stronger or even life long partnership... well, this is what 'finding a partner' and 'going out/splitting up' ... "dating" in general ... is all about!
Some LDRs survive, some don't. Everyone changes when they go to college, and as they proceed through life: the question is do both you and your partner change in ways that mean you are still compatible? My LDR when I went to college lasted 4 months and then it ran out of steam and we split up.
In my opinion, having LDR is not a problem at all. LDR depends on the couple whether they can stick to their commitment or not. If they can hold on the commitment and have faith in each other, the relationship will be fine. About the temptations, this is the most serious problem a couple has in their relationship.
Temptation like having another relationship without being known by our girlfriend or boyfriend is commonly found in teenagers' love story. Actually, we can overcome these temptations by keeping the communication with our girlfriend clear. Misunderstanding is also a big problem and it often leads to the end of relationship.
The worst part of long distance love is when your lover is feeling insecure. Sometimes it's a bit difficult to make him believe that i'm here fine and not cheating on him. Communication and trust are the important keys to survive long distance relationship.
"what if you're 'the one'?" That's the question that would come to our mind when we thought we find the perfect mate for us.
When we are in love, age, distance, and physical things don't matter anymore. It might sound silly. We're 17, unstable, and immature. It could be just another typical puppy love but somehow, I love the feeling of being completed by the person I cherish. That feeling towards that person, is the only thing that can help you get through all the troubles.
After all, distance means so little when someone means so much.
all I know, falling in love is breathtaking. but now I realize that fall in love is really breath-taking.
it's taking out my breath when I found a guy, that really close to a prince charming figure that I desire. and I find out that the guy will have one same class with me.
then it taking your breath deeper when I informed by my friends, there is a gossip that the prince-charming is close to someone else that I know and I think the girl is not better than me (not being rude or anything).. I'll keep thinking 'what on earth is he thinking?! why would he choose her and not me?'
But then, after such a heart-breaking gossip which make my mood drop to the ground, the guy pop in my facebook chat, and we had a comfortable conversation for a quite long time. I know that was only a small thing, but it would make me fly to the sky, then I will think that the gossip is untrue, and I still have a chance to win his heart.
yet, the following day, I see with my own eyes that the guy and the girl have conversation, and the girl handed something like a gift to him. it's like an evidence to that gossip, which taking your breath any deeper.
later on, there are some little signals or ray of hope coming but accompanied with another heartbreaking fact. it really made my mood upside down, not excited to start the day, or even to do some interesting activities. I keep thinking what was it all about? what will happen next? whether it will raise my mood or contrary.
but then I realize, the main problem is I'm expect too much, I put myself in pain. just don't expect too much in life, let what will happen to your life become a surprise
anyway I think this story is answering Karin's theory: "expectation is the root of all heartache". from the victim side.. huft
I have a little knowledge about this kind of thing. But I recommend you to watch http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSdELZxEnHY It is a short movie -only 16 minutes- about journey of love. For me, it is really deep and touching. You guys should have some time to watch it in a calm quiet atmosphere.
I think that love should not have.the more we hold too hard, all will slowly disappear.but, if we have someone we love, try to keep her feelings.I'm sure, if we try to keep each other or respect the feelings, everything will running well. everyone will say if the breakup was not bad, but it risks in relationships. It all made the experience of life wrote.
Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.
"Love doesn't always mean you have to own her" . That quote best matches what i'm facing right now. I'm so desperate that she is owned already, but deep inside i know that she is mine. I do really regret that i act really slow and this is what i really deserve to get.
I found sweet quote from twitter "If nothing last forever,will you be my nothing?".But forever never exist in my own dictionary,so it's just a quote without any meaning for me.
I never read this post before, and now when I read this I was thinking like "Wow, my fellows IUP become melodramatic in this post, haha"
Talking about long distance relationship, I once experienced a real long distance relationship (the distance I had was around 7000 miles, very far, with the difference of time which make it more difficult). It was unbelievable having myself survived from those kind of situation. I won't say that it was easy, some people may fail, but some people could survive though. It needed a very big effort and commitment. And to be honest, the time when you miss someone living very far from you and not possible to see him/her at all for a long time was just unexplainable. But when you see yourself and your boyfriend/girlfriend could meet up again after those long war against distance, time, and feeling, you'll be like the happiest person ever. You'll be proud of what you've did.
So, this post is for supporting my beloved class B friends who are having LDR, saying congratulation for those whose FB's status just became "in relationship", and also saying for those who is still finding the right one to keep fight and not to be melodramatic in every silent rainy night. Good luck!
Well Nadkar, being mellow and dramatic is inspiring sometimes. And being melodramatic is sensational. I just find out that melodramatic also means sensational. It is tickling my mind reading all of your post about love. Me, myself consider love as sensational thing. It is an unelaborated elementary awareness of stimulation. Geez, that to deep. Something which is dazzlingly come up and takes all of your attention, and it become a new sense of feeling that turns your world upside down. It could be come by a charm, comfort or even accustomed. The more you feel deeper it sensed. But each person has different ways to implement it. Some like to show it openly, some prefer to feel it themselves.
"If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one you wouldn’t have fallen for the second", Johny Depp ( Pirates of caribbean, Alice in Wonderland, etc.)
Tell her how you admire her. When she is upset, hold her tight. Pick over her all the other girls you hang out with . Tell her jokes, let her fall asleep in your arms. Look at her eyes and tell her that she is beautiful. Finally, if you love her, then the most important thing is Tell Her.
Love is like a mountain, hard to climb, but once you get the top, the view is beautiful. But it also hurts when you jump over it. I have undergone this kind of situation. Thus, when you love someone, make sure that you will always love her, and don't let you two trapped in a stuck condition and broke down. Just stand on the top, and the beautiful scenery would be yours forever.
For girls, find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you' re just as pretty without makeup on.
One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU... The one who turns to his friends and says, thats her...
Love, bitter-sweet of love. Love will turns you to a good person, yet change you to the bad one. Love could lead you a better life, yet turns it into hell of a mess. Love brings joy, laughter, and smile. But some say Love ended up in tears of sorrow. For all i know Love is never that simple, it is that complicated feelings in your mind, it is what you feel inside.
“Sometimes you love someone so much that not even the truth can change your mind.” These words are really beautiful and also very sad, but it happens in the real world and I believe that many couples would experience this. Like for example you love your boyfriend so much but then he was often lying to you. The one who loves him will try to forgive, forget, and give him another chance, again and again. But then we must realize that we can’t continue to walk on blind love, so often abused. Therefore we must accept the bitter truth that the relationship must end.
Some time ago, i read a really good short story. It goes a bit like this:
There's a scholar and his teacher. The scholar asked "Teacher, can you give me the meaning of true love?" The teacher replied "Go find yourself the most beautiful flower you can find at the the flower garden near here, bring it to me and never look back."
And so the scholar went to the flower garden, and then he found a flower that he thinks it's the most beautiful flower. But then he tried to search more and leave the flower. After a while, he found another beautiful flower, but he thinks that the previous one is more beautiful. He went back and found the previous flower has been taken by another. He rushes back to the flower he just found, and it's gone too. He felt tired and went back to his teacher.
"Where is the flower? why do you go back empty handed?" the teacher asked. The scholar told him what happened, and the teacher said "That is true love my dear student. The more you search for the most perfect, then you will never find true love."
So don't ever waste the love that has grow in your heart. Because time will never go back.
Find a perfect partner is not that easy as in the movies. I find out that romantic movies give me high expectation about love and relationship. Movies give unrealistic portray about relationship. It’s not that easy in the real world. Sometimes we hate the person that love us, and love the person that hates us. We do friendzoned, get friendzoned, being rejected, broken heart, loving, etc. It’s just a part of life. If you don’t understand how hard is that to find a soul mate, you’ll never know how they mean to you. You can’t appreciate the meaning of love if you don’t get hurt first.
What a nice story from Gilang. I heard quotation that really fit into Gilang's story. Love isn't about finding someone perfect; it's about learning to love an imperfect person perfectly. Because we are just ordinary people, sometimes we rise and we fall. We need to understand and realize that there’s no such flawless person in this world. Afterwards, you can find a true love
Yeah Gilang was right. We better appreciate what we already have and try to love their weaknesses. We shouldn’t leave the one who was obviously being with us in any condition for someone you know nothing about. I was dealing with it lately, but we must also remember that life must go on and don't always look back. Make the mistakes that have been done becomes a valuable lesson, this is applied not only in term love.
I agree with Gilang's, Tama's, and Rania's opinion. We can't find true love by comparing one to another. Just like a quotation from Raditya Dika, "You are the odd-shaped jigsaw puzzle that I'm looking to fit. And you completed me." Sometimes two people are just meant to be. They might be flawless and imperfect and they might not seem like a match to other people, but all that matter is that they accept each other for whoever they are. It goes for the singles as well. We don't have to rush and struggle hard to find a true love. Someday there will be a perfect moment for us. Love when you're ready, not when you're lonely.
Another issues in love's life is how you tell your real feelings. Deep inside of you want someone but unfortunately you don't have any bravery to tell what's your feelings. I have some story and I'm looking forward to others comment. It's quite long but it's worth read for
10th grade **********
As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called 'best friend'. I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. after class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before. I handed them to her. She said 'thanks' and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don’t know why.
11th grade **********
The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said 'thanks' and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don’t know why.
Senior year ***********
The day before prom, she walked to my locker. "My date is sick" she said, "he's not gonna go" well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as 'best friends'. So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't thinking of me like that, and I know it. Then she said- "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine- but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said- 'you're my best friend, thanks' and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say 'I do' and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine,but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said 'you came!'. She said 'thanks' and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my 'best friend'. At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years.
This is what it read:
"I stare at him wishing he was mine; but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me!" 'I wish I did too...' I thought to myself, and I cried.
Don’t give up you’re love if it’s worth to fight. If it’s not just forget it. Because relationship need effort from two people not just a person fighting for love but the other do nothing.
ReplyDeleteOne day, there was a girl standing at bus stop. After 5 minutes waiting, the first bus arrived. The condition of the bus was very bad. It was very dirty and smelled bad. But the price was cheap. The girl did not want to go home with that bus so she thought she'll wait for another bus. The second bus arrived not longer after that. The condition of the bus almost as bad as the first bus so the girl decided to wait another bus. After waiting for 10 minutes, the third bus passed. This bus was in good condition but the price was higher than another two buses. This girl wanted to go home with this bus, but she decided to wait again because of the price. The fourth bus arrived 30 minutes after that. This bus was very bad, even the worst of all. But it was almost night and the girl had to arrived at home before night. So she decided to go home with this bus.
ReplyDeleteWhat can we conclude from this story?
Do not be too picky. When there was a chance, do not reject it simply just because he or she does not suit your taste. He or she may be the best for you.
The girl is never satisfied with the bus. She kept waiting and waiting but in the end she got the worst bus. You do not want to be like that, do you?
It extremely breaks your heart, when person you know become person you knew. When closest person become stranger . When you can walk right past someone, as if she was never a huge part of your life. You used to be able to talk for hours on the phone, and now you cant even look each other in the eye. It completely breaks your heart to know good things change.
ReplyDeleteI think the most saddest part about love life is when everyday you seen him or her..
ReplyDeleteYou talk to him or her everytime..
You have the feeling to having him or her..
And you think about him or her everynight..
But you must face the truth at the end, because you know that you'll never be with him or her..
I 'm totally agree with Ghina. From my own experience, It's really hard to keep LDR. I try to trust, support, and always keep in touch with him but I think there is a particular key in order to keep the relationship working. Unfortunately,I don't know that it is until now.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I don't like my boyfriend's behaviour that always pick a nose in front of me, singing too loud, or he even prefers to take care of his pet than play with me.. But, that's love. Love teaches me how to see imperfect person perfectly :)
ReplyDeleteThe first time I had a boyfriend was when I was in the first year of junior high school, and we had a long-distace relationship. Suddenly, my friend told me that he was dating 3 girls at that time, then we broke up via sms. Everytime I open his Facebook account, all I know is that he's disgusting. He still uses slang Indonesian words such as saia which means saya, muup which means maaf, siappva which means siapa, etc. He uses it even up until now. I always want to ask him, "Hello, what year is it today?".
ReplyDeleteTo be honest with you guys, I know nothing about love. But one thing I gotta share to you guys :
ReplyDelete"Don't frown in front of people, because someone might fall in love with your smile :)
LDR or long distance relationship isn't as bad as I thought before cause it's a modern era and there are many ways to communicate with my boyfriend.It will help us to be more mature,to be more understand each other,trust each other and we learn alot from LDR.I try to think about LDR in positive side because it will make LDR run easier if we always think positively.
ReplyDeleteIt takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone you really love.
ReplyDeleteI just want to share something here, don't ever force yourself to love someone if you have no feeling to the person who loves you. Because, it's really hurt when you find out the person you love doesn't have the same feeling with you, and he/she doesn't let you know about that from the very beginning. It's better to tell the truth about your feeling before he/she falls in love too deep and expects too high. The deeper he/she falls, the higher he/she expects, the more pain he/she feels. Like one of Shakespeare's quote (if I'm not mistaken), "expectation is the root of all heartache".
ReplyDelete@Amel : But there are a lot temptations if you do long distance relationship. But, I believe if a couple have commitment so there is no problem even if the couple do Long distance relationship
ReplyDelete@Asdi : Asdi, Your statement is extremely correct
@ Bagaskara: "there are a lot temptations if you do long distance relationship"
ReplyDeleteOf course, those "temptations" are a legitimate part of the decision making process that a pre-marriage 'relationship' is.
I'm not saying people should cheat on each other because they are far away! These "temptations" mean there is attraction. And if there is attraction, then perhaps there is potential for a relationship.
If the attraction and compatibility that sustain a relationship grow weak and another (potential) relationship seems more likely to lead to a stronger or even life long partnership... well, this is what 'finding a partner' and 'going out/splitting up' ... "dating" in general ... is all about!
Some LDRs survive, some don't. Everyone changes when they go to college, and as they proceed through life: the question is do both you and your partner change in ways that mean you are still compatible? My LDR when I went to college lasted 4 months and then it ran out of steam and we split up.
In my opinion, having LDR is not a problem at all. LDR depends on the couple whether they can stick to their commitment or not. If they can hold on the commitment and have faith in each other, the relationship will be fine. About the temptations, this is the most serious problem a couple has in their relationship.
ReplyDeleteTemptation like having another relationship without being known by our girlfriend or boyfriend is commonly found in teenagers' love story. Actually, we can overcome these temptations by keeping the communication with our girlfriend clear. Misunderstanding is also a big problem and it often leads to the end of relationship.
The worst part of long distance love is when your lover is feeling insecure. Sometimes it's a bit difficult to make him believe that i'm here fine and not cheating on him.
ReplyDeleteCommunication and trust are the important keys to survive long distance relationship.
"what if you're 'the one'?"
ReplyDeleteThat's the question that would come to our mind when we thought we find the perfect mate for us.
When we are in love, age, distance, and physical things don't matter anymore. It might sound silly. We're 17, unstable, and immature. It could be just another typical puppy love but somehow, I love the feeling of being completed by the person I cherish.
That feeling towards that person, is the only thing that can help you get through all the troubles.
After all, distance means so little when someone means so much.
all I know, falling in love is breathtaking.
ReplyDeletebut now I realize that fall in love is really breath-taking.
it's taking out my breath when I found a guy, that really close to a prince charming figure that I desire. and I find out that the guy will have one same class with me.
then it taking your breath deeper when I informed by my friends, there is a gossip that the prince-charming is close to someone else that I know and I think the girl is not better than me (not being rude or anything).. I'll keep thinking 'what on earth is he thinking?! why would he choose her and not me?'
But then, after such a heart-breaking gossip which make my mood drop to the ground, the guy pop in my facebook chat, and we had a comfortable conversation for a quite long time. I know that was only a small thing, but it would make me fly to the sky, then I will think that the gossip is untrue, and I still have a chance to win his heart.
yet, the following day, I see with my own eyes that the guy and the girl have conversation, and the girl handed something like a gift to him. it's like an evidence to that gossip, which taking your breath any deeper.
later on, there are some little signals or ray of hope coming but accompanied with another heartbreaking fact.
it really made my mood upside down, not excited to start the day, or even to do some interesting activities. I keep thinking what was it all about? what will happen next? whether it will raise my mood or contrary.
but then I realize, the main problem is I'm expect too much, I put myself in pain.
just don't expect too much in life, let what will happen to your life become a surprise
anyway I think this story is answering Karin's theory: "expectation is the root of all heartache". from the victim side.. huft
I have a little knowledge about this kind of thing. But I recommend you to watch http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSdELZxEnHY
ReplyDeleteIt is a short movie -only 16 minutes- about journey of love. For me, it is really deep and touching. You guys should have some time to watch it in a calm quiet atmosphere.
I think that love should not have.the more we hold too hard, all will slowly disappear.but, if we have someone we love, try to keep her feelings.I'm sure, if we try to keep each other or respect the feelings, everything will running well.
ReplyDeleteeveryone will say if the breakup was not bad, but it risks in relationships. It all made the experience of life wrote.
Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.
ReplyDelete"Love doesn't always mean you have to own her" . That quote best matches what i'm facing right now. I'm so desperate that she is owned already, but deep inside i know that she is mine. I do really regret that i act really slow and this is what i really deserve to get.
ReplyDeleteI found sweet quote from twitter "If nothing last forever,will you be my nothing?".But forever never exist in my own dictionary,so it's just a quote without any meaning for me.
ReplyDeleteI never read this post before, and now when I read this I was thinking like "Wow, my fellows IUP become melodramatic in this post, haha"
ReplyDeleteTalking about long distance relationship, I once experienced a real long distance relationship (the distance I had was around 7000 miles, very far, with the difference of time which make it more difficult). It was unbelievable having myself survived from those kind of situation. I won't say that it was easy, some people may fail, but some people could survive though. It needed a very big effort and commitment. And to be honest, the time when you miss someone living very far from you and not possible to see him/her at all for a long time was just unexplainable. But when you see yourself and your boyfriend/girlfriend could meet up again after those long war against distance, time, and feeling, you'll be like the happiest person ever. You'll be proud of what you've did.
So, this post is for supporting my beloved class B friends who are having LDR, saying congratulation for those whose FB's status just became "in relationship", and also saying for those who is still finding the right one to keep fight and not to be melodramatic in every silent rainy night. Good luck!
Well Nadkar, being mellow and dramatic is inspiring sometimes. And being melodramatic is sensational. I just find out that melodramatic also means sensational. It is tickling my mind reading all of your post about love. Me, myself consider love as sensational thing. It is an unelaborated elementary awareness of stimulation. Geez, that to deep. Something which is dazzlingly come up and takes all of your attention, and it become a new sense of feeling that turns your world upside down. It could be come by a charm, comfort or even accustomed. The more you feel deeper it sensed. But each person has different ways to implement it. Some like to show it openly, some prefer to feel it themselves.
ReplyDelete"If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one you wouldn’t have fallen for the second", Johny Depp ( Pirates of caribbean, Alice in Wonderland, etc.)
ReplyDeleteTell her how you admire her. When she is upset, hold her tight. Pick over her all the other girls you hang out with . Tell her jokes, let her fall asleep in your arms. Look at her eyes and tell her that she is beautiful. Finally, if you love her, then the most important thing is Tell Her.
ReplyDeleteLove is like a mountain, hard to climb, but once you get the top, the view is beautiful. But it also hurts when you jump over it. I have undergone this kind of situation. Thus, when you love someone, make sure that you will always love her, and don't let you two trapped in a stuck condition and broke down. Just stand on the top, and the beautiful scenery would be yours forever.
ReplyDeleteFor girls, find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you' re just as pretty without makeup on.
ReplyDeleteOne who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU... The one who turns to his friends and says, thats her...
Love, bitter-sweet of love. Love will turns you to a good person, yet change you to the bad one. Love could lead you a better life, yet turns it into hell of a mess. Love brings joy, laughter, and smile. But some say Love ended up in tears of sorrow.
ReplyDeleteFor all i know Love is never that simple, it is that complicated feelings in your mind, it is what you feel inside.
“Sometimes you love someone so much that not even the truth can change your mind.” These words are really beautiful and also very sad, but it happens in the real world and I believe that many couples would experience this. Like for example you love your boyfriend so much but then he was often lying to you. The one who loves him will try to forgive, forget, and give him another chance, again and again. But then we must realize that we can’t continue to walk on blind love, so often abused. Therefore we must accept the bitter truth that the relationship must end.
ReplyDeleteSome time ago, i read a really good short story. It goes a bit like this:
ReplyDeleteThere's a scholar and his teacher. The scholar asked "Teacher, can you give me the meaning of true love?" The teacher replied "Go find yourself the most beautiful flower you can find at the the flower garden near here, bring it to me and never look back."
And so the scholar went to the flower garden, and then he found a flower that he thinks it's the most beautiful flower. But then he tried to search more and leave the flower. After a while, he found another beautiful flower, but he thinks that the previous one is more beautiful. He went back and found the previous flower has been taken by another. He rushes back to the flower he just found, and it's gone too. He felt tired and went back to his teacher.
"Where is the flower? why do you go back empty handed?" the teacher asked. The scholar told him what happened, and the teacher said "That is true love my dear student. The more you search for the most perfect, then you will never find true love."
So don't ever waste the love that has grow in your heart. Because time will never go back.
Find a perfect partner is not that easy as in the movies. I find out that romantic movies give me high expectation about love and relationship. Movies give unrealistic portray about relationship. It’s not that easy in the real world. Sometimes we hate the person that love us, and love the person that hates us. We do friendzoned, get friendzoned, being rejected, broken heart, loving, etc. It’s just a part of life. If you don’t understand how hard is that to find a soul mate, you’ll never know how they mean to you. You can’t appreciate the meaning of love if you don’t get hurt first.
ReplyDeleteWhat a nice story from Gilang.
ReplyDeleteI heard quotation that really fit into Gilang's story. Love isn't about finding someone perfect; it's about learning to love an imperfect person perfectly. Because we are just ordinary people, sometimes we rise and we fall. We need to understand and realize that there’s no such flawless person in this world. Afterwards, you can find a true love
Yeah Gilang was right. We better appreciate what we already have and try to love their weaknesses. We shouldn’t leave the one who was obviously being with us in any condition for someone you know nothing about. I was dealing with it lately, but we must also remember that life must go on and don't always look back. Make the mistakes that have been done becomes a valuable lesson, this is applied not only in term love.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Gilang's, Tama's, and Rania's opinion. We can't find true love by comparing one to another.
ReplyDeleteJust like a quotation from Raditya Dika, "You are the odd-shaped jigsaw puzzle that I'm looking to fit. And you completed me."
Sometimes two people are just meant to be. They might be flawless and imperfect and they might not seem like a match to other people, but all that matter is that they accept each other for whoever they are.
It goes for the singles as well. We don't have to rush and struggle hard to find a true love. Someday there will be a perfect moment for us. Love when you're ready, not when you're lonely.
Another issues in love's life is how you tell your real feelings. Deep inside of you want someone but unfortunately you don't have any bravery to tell what's your feelings. I have some story and I'm looking forward to others comment. It's quite long but it's worth read for
ReplyDelete10th grade **********
As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called 'best friend'. I stared at her long, silky hair,
and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. after class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before. I handed them to her. She said 'thanks' and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her,
I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don’t know why.
11th grade **********
The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie,
and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said 'thanks' and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her,
I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends,
I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don’t know why.
Senior year ***********
The day before prom, she walked to my locker. "My date is sick" she said, "he's not gonna go" well, I didn't have a date,
and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as 'best friends'. So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't thinking of me like that, and I know it. Then she said- "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine- but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said- 'you're my best friend, thanks' and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say 'I do' and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine,but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said 'you came!'. She said 'thanks' and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my 'best friend'. At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years.
This is what it read:
"I stare at him wishing he was mine; but he doesn't notice me like
that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me!"
'I wish I did too...' I thought to myself, and I cried.